A compassionate approach to decluttering

One of the biggest reasons we put off organizing or decluttering is simple - it’s overwhelm. The feeling of where do I even start? can be so heavy that avoidance feels like the easier path. But here’s the thing—avoiding the clutter often adds to feeling stressed. The more we delay, the more the stress quietly builds, leading to anxiety, frustration, and guilt.

Let’s take a gentle breath and walk through this together. There’s no rush here - just small, thoughtful steps forward.

1) Reflect on the “Why”
Why are you feeling overwhelmed? Is it the size of the task, the memories attached to certain items, or the fear of making the “wrong” decision? Sometimes the act of naming what’s behind the discomfort can take away some of its power. Be curious, not critical, with yourself.

2) Acknowledge Your Feelings
Yes, you’re feeling overwhelmed—and that’s okay. Really. These feelings are valid, and you don’t need to push them away or pretend they’re not there. Try sitting with the discomfort for just a moment. You might be surprised by how much clarity follows when you stop running from it.

3) Focus on What You Can Control
Not everything needs to be handled at once. Can you start by grouping like items together? Can you look at just one category or one space and ask: “Do I use this? Do I love this?” Downsizing isn’t about deprivation—it’s about creating ease and making room for what matters most.

4) Take Frequent Breaks
You don’t have to do this all in one go. In fact, please don’t. Set a timer—10, 20, 30 minutes, whatever feels right—and then step away. Let your mind and body rest. Sometimes a cup of tea, a bit of sunlight, or even just a few moments with your eyes closed can reset your energy.

5) Breathe
When we’re anxious or overwhelmed, our breath often becomes shallow. Pause. Inhale slowly. Exhale even slower. Do this a few times and notice how your body starts to soften. You are safe. You are okay. You are capable.

6) Start Small
Pick something tiny—a drawer, a single shelf, even just a bag of items. Begin with curiosity, not pressure. What’s here? What do I want to keep? What can I let go of? You don’t need to finish the whole house today—just make a dent. That’s more than enough.

7) Celebrate Your Successes
Every step counts. Truly. Even taking the time to read this and reflect on your feelings is a beautiful beginning. So when you clear that drawer or donate that bag, pause and celebrate. These little wins stack up over time, creating big shifts with lasting impact.

Use this Decluttering Checklist as a guide:
 ☐ I paused and acknowledged my overwhelm without judgment
 ☐ I identified one reason I might be feeling stuck
 ☐ I chose a single, manageable area to begin with
 ☐ I grouped like items together to make sorting easier
 ☐ I let go of at least one thing I no longer need
 ☐ I set a timer and took a mindful break
 ☐ I practiced deep breathing when I felt tension
 ☐ I reminded myself that small steps are enough
 ☐ I celebrated one thing I accomplished today

Remember, there’s no right pace, just your own. You’ve got this!